Teen Relationships

Teen Relationships

Teen relationship blog

 

Relationships can be new and exciting for teenagers! There are many positive aspects that come from having that special person in your life. However, if this is something new to you, you may have some questions or need some advice. That’s what we are here for. Don’t be afraid to talk with your parents or another trusted adult about your feelings and questions too!

 

What does a healthy relationship look like?

When you are in a healthy relationship, you and your partner should both feel good about your relationship and yourselves. Keys to a healthy relationship include trust, honesty, respect, equality, and good communication. You should be able to discuss any topic with your partner calmly, and with respect and openness. As well, both of you should respect each other’s’ boundaries. This person should be like your friend. You should be able to be yourself around this person and not have to hide who you truly are. A healthy relationship should be happy – have fun!

 

What does an unhealthy relationship look like?

Basically, an unhealthy relationship is the opposite of the previous section. If you are generally feeling bad about yourself or your relationship, you are missing key aspects such as trust, communication, honesty, your partner is not respecting you or your boundaries, there is lying and cheating, you stop feeling happy with yourself, or you become obsessed with each other and are neglecting other aspects of your life such as friends, family, and school, it may be time to step back from this relationship or talk things out with your partner to resolve any issues. However, if emotional or physical abuse ever become an issue, get out of the situation and talk with a trusted adult to help you move forward. Remember, you are never alone.

 

How do I know what I want in a partner?

Generally, you should want your partner to have the qualities of a person that you would want in a best friend. It should be someone who you feel comfortable and happy with. Only you know what you want in a person and what would make you happy. Characteristics such as being kind, caring, and honest are good qualities to look for as a starting point.

 

How do I break-up with someone?

If it comes to the point that the relationship is not what you are looking for anymore, it may be time to have the break-up talk. This talk should be honest. There should not be hateful words, name-calling, or violence during this conversation. Pick a safe space to talk, and in person if you feel safe. Make sure to take care of yourself in the process.

 

What do I do if we break-up?

Break-ups can be very difficult. Just because things didn’t work out doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. Give yourself credit for trying to make a relationship work, but accept that sometimes things don’t work out. There will be a lot of emotions and hurt that you will need to work through. Allow yourself to feel sad and mourn the relationship. However, do not let it take over your life. Spend some extra time with friends and family. Focus on your school work. Volunteer. Exercise. There are many ways to keep busy and fulfill your life in other ways. However, the most realistic way that you will get through a break-up is time. It will take time to start to feel like you are moving on. Take as much time as you need, and don’t rush into a new relationship. Allow yourself to heal completely.

 

Overall, relationships can be tricky to maneuver, but they can also be very rewarding. Make sure to protect your heart, be safe, be yourself, and have fun!